Westchester Divorce Lawyer – Arnold D. Cribari

Category: Collaborative Divorce

Getting Your Spouse on Board with Collaborative

Let’s say you have decided to get a divorce and that the collaborative divorce process makes the most sense to you. But you can’t have a collaborative divorce if your spouse isn’t interested.

Let’s say you have decided to get a divorce and that the collaborative divorce process makes the most sense to you. But you can’t have a collaborative divorce if your spouse isn’t interested.

A Sea Change in Divorce Law

Some 30-odd years ago I chose the profession of law because of a deep-seated respect for our legal system, and a desire to help people. As an idealist, I believed that “the law” – in a democratic republic such as ours – is the sine qua non of a civilized society. Law enables us to substitute words, wisdom and reason for weapons, fisticuffs, or abusive language. The courts administer the law, providing a safe container for conflict.

Some 30-odd years ago I chose the profession of law because of a deep-seated respect for our legal system, and a desire to help people. As an idealist, I believed that “the law” – in a democratic republic such as ours – is the sine qua non of a civilized society. Law enables us to substitute words, wisdom and reason for weapons, fisticuffs, or abusive language. The courts administer the law, providing a safe container for conflict.

We Have A Dream

This was inspired by, and written in honor of, the “I Have a Dream” speech of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., the great work he did in the civil rights movement in the 1960s, and the great work collaborative divorce professionals do today: We have a dream – that divorce lawyers of all kinds remember at all times the words of the Great Emancipator, President Abraham Lincoln, who wrote the following in a note for a law lecture in 1850: “Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser – in fees, expenses and waste of time. As a peacemaker, the lawyer has a superior opportunity of being a good person. There will still be business enough. Never stir up litigation. A worse person can scarcely be found than one who does this.” We have a … Read More...