Collaborating When Litigating a Divorce. An Oxymoron?
Recently, another divorce attorney made a profound comment about the practice of divorce law: “So many litigations settle before trial, I consider my litigated cases to be another opportunity to collaborate. In fact, I see them as another form of collaborative.” What a revolutionary idea! This attorney and I were on opposite sides of a very intensely litigated divorce. Like most divorce cases, it settled before trial. Both of us brought our collaborative skills to the negotiations, and we both had a collaborative attitude. Despite the hotly contested issues in the case, we were able to collaborate to the extent that the divorcing couple, the Judge and the circumstances made it possible do so. We were able to preserve more of the couple’s financial resources than would have been possible if the case had gone to trial, followed by the inevitable appeal. When it is necessary for a divorce litigator … Read More...