Westchester Divorce Lawyer – Arnold D. Cribari

Category: mediation-friendly attorney

Looking for a Divorce Attorney, and Want to Avoid Court?

If you are on the threshold of a divorce in New York, and you hope to have a divorce out-of-court settlement, you will want a New York divorce attorney who concentrates exclusively on mediation and collaborative divorce. Different Mindsets: Mediator vs. Litigator Divorce lawyers who are in court a lot are influenced by the arguing and combative language they use in court. Such arguments and contentious language are best avoided when working to achieve an out-of-court settlement. Attorneys who dedicate their practice to mediation and collaborative divorce use communication skills that facilitate coming to an agreement. They make a positive connection with both spouses, demonstrating that they understand what is most important to them in resolving their issues. Buyer Beware When looking for  divorce attorney, and want to avoid court, ask if their practice is focused exclusively on collaborative and mediation. Just because an attorney calls themselves a “collaborative lawyer” … Read More...

Collaborative Divorce and Mediation: Disagreeing Without Being Disagreeable

Focusing my law practice on collaborative divorce and mediation has inspired me to strengthen my conflict resolution skills, and to apply them to other areas of my life. Love Your Enemies: How Decent People Can Save America from the Culture of Contempt, a powerful book by Arthur C. Brooks, pulls together philosophical and practical teachings from the world’s great thinkers on the moral imperative for human beings to be able to disagree in a respectful and productive way. The title of the book stems from the Gospel of Matthew 5:44, although there are many other citations in both the Hebrew Scriptures and the New Testament that express similar instructions regarding the treatment of so-called “enemies.” Moreover, other sources that Brooks cites in the book include Aristotle, Plato, Abraham Lincoln, Nelson Mandala, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., motivational speaker Simon Sinek, marriage and relationship expert Dr. John Gottman, and Ivy League professors … Read More...

Affordable New York Divorce: Get a Mediation Friendly Divorce Attorney

Let’s say you have made the wise decision to divorce via mediation. All ethical and professional divorce mediators will encourage each spouse to consult with his/her own separate review attorney, at least before signing off on a final divorce settlement agreement.  One of my areas of expertise is serving as a mediation friendly review attorney for a spouse during a New York divorce mediation. Why a “mediation friendly” attorney? It is important for the review attorney to be mediation friendly as well as well-versed in New York divorce law.  That is because it’s imperative that the client get good legal advice while still optimizing the chances that the couple make an out of court settlement. If the review attorney is too aggressive, like some New York divorce litigators, the mediation can be torpedoed with the spouses ending up in court at their considerable expense. Typically, this review process begins when … Read More...