A Good Divorce Aftermath: Why it Matters
After practicing matrimonial law for some 45 years, I’ve come to the following realization: a good divorce settlement and aftermath is priceless, especially if you have children.
After your divorce, your future ex-spouse will still be the other parent of your children. That person will continue to be an important part of your children’s lives — and, consequently, your life.
For a couple with young children, it is obvious that they will need to form a long-term co-parenting partnership. Decisions about the children’s religious upbringing, education, extracurricular activities, health care, and the scheduling of holiday visitations and vacations will necessitate many conversations over the years. (For advice regarding children and holidays post-divorce, click here: https://www.westchesterdivorcelawyer.com/divorce-aftermath-co-parenting-and-the-holiday-shuffle/)
But even for divorcing couples who have adult children, a respectful relationship between the parents is invaluable. College graduations, weddings, the birth of grandchildren, and the grandchildren’s relationship with their grandparents will mean a life-long connection between the divorced spouses.
How to achieve a Good Divorce Settlement and Aftermath
Collaborative divorce is the best way to obtain such an aftermath. True collaborative divorce attorneys (not those who just dabble in it) have undergone intensive training in mediation and conflict resolution skills. They have the knowledge, skills and dedication to help their clients achieve a settlement that satisfies their reasonable needs and interests, and those of their children. They listen and facilitate thoughtful communication between the divorcing spouses. Their goal is a win-win result for both parties and their children.
Few divorce attorneys who spend most of their time in court have made the commitment to learn collaborative skills. Their negotiating style is adversarial and results in a win-lose situation. However, in the long-term, such a result is actually a lose-lose situation because both parties are usually left with hurt, anger and resentment.
For those in the know, a collaborative divorce is cutting edge and the best way to divorce for most divorcing couples in the long term.
If you live in Westchester County or Putnam County, New York, and you hope to obtain a New York divorce with a good divorce settlement and aftermath, please contact me to schedule a consultation.
